A sensual erotic massage in 8 simple steps

Erotic massage is an art of touch and seduction, of caressing and titillation. With love, patience, and of course, our practical erotic massage tips, any lover can learn to give erotic massage! For more creativity in your sex life, giving and receiving an intimate massage is an effective, but above all, pleasurable act for both of you. Want to learn the best technique? Then read our 8 tips for erotic massage!

Erotic massage: enjoy and let others enjoy!

The erotic massage is intended to allow the person receiving the massage to completely relax, allowing for complete surrender… This is in contrast to 'regular' sex, when you and your partner are active and there is effort on both sides.

Erotic massage is not so much a regular massage with a 'happy ending' or just massaging the genitals.

A sensual erotic massage generates energy that is distributed throughout the body through massage and deep breathing. With these massage techniques, you learn to delay your orgasm, enjoy each other more intensely, and an orgasm can be much more intense. Ultimately, you can full body experience orgasm. A You won't just feel full body pleasure in your genitals, but the pleasure will radiate throughout your entire body... So you can experience pleasure much deeper with an erotic massage!

How do you give an erotic massage?

Want to get started with erotic massage, but not sure how, or perhaps a little nervous? In just 8 simple steps, we'll explain how to give the perfect erotic massage:

1. Take good preparation seriously
2. Wear nice clothes
3. Make sure you have a good massage oil
4. Take a nice warm shower
5. Start massaging gently
6. Take your time
7. Play with all the senses and use props
8. Yoni or lingam massage

And don't forget: practice makes perfect, so enjoy the fun you have together and keep trying.

1. Sensual massage: take good preparation seriously!

The first step in erotic massage is preparation. Not only do the massage techniques create a sensual and stimulating experience, but the environment also influences the sensory experience.

The physical space

First, create a setting—the physical space—that's well-maintained, warm, and wonderfully scented. Fresh, soft sheets create a tactile, sensual sensation on your skin. Also consider the music: do you want relaxing or uplifting music? It's also a good idea to create a playlist so you don't have to switch tracks every time. Also, make sure your phone is on silent so you can't be disturbed.

The inner components

But the set, the internal components, are equally important. Are you both relaxed and open enough to enjoy this physical experience? Or do you first need to blow off some steam from the day, or connect with each other?

In our blog Tantra tips for beginners Read on to learn how to create a small ritual to stimulate contact and connection. This is certainly not only relevant in tantra. If there is no emotional connection, the erotic massage will also generate less pleasure.

2. Sensual massage: the eye also wants something...

And what about you? You can play with your clothes, for example, by wearing a silk kimono and sensual lingerie. Jewelry is also a beautiful element, especially when you can incorporate it into your massage. Are you into If you 're feeling kinky , add some exciting items like a whip, choker, blindfold, and so on. Our visual system contributes enormously to arousal and pleasure, so use your imagination and play with all the available elements.

3. Intimate massage with massage oil

In addition to preparing the room and yourself, you will of course have a wonderful massage oil on hand. Every massage, including erotic ones, is given with a oil . This makes everything smoother and tastier.

Make sure you choose a massage oil that smells pleasant. Our sense of smell is very important in our arousal, so use a scent that suits the purpose of the massage. Do you want relaxation first and foremost? Then use a fragrant lavender massage oil. Do you want something uplifting and energizing? Then you can use citrus or ylang ylang scents. Or use A massage candle . The warm, melted wax from the candle becomes a wonderful massage oil. The scent of the candle, when burned, is also extra pleasant for the environment.

Note : Oil can make condoms porous. It's also best not to use oil for vulva/vagina massage. It disrupts the vaginal pH and also makes oil difficult to remove. For vulva and vaginal massage, it's best to use a good lubricant.

4. Body and mind

The wonderful evening has arrived! You're well prepared, the room is warm, the music is stimulating, and you have your oil and lubricant at the ready. Perhaps you've even mentally prepared your partner and told them you're going to give them a wonderful massage tonight... This way, your loved one can look forward to it; anticipation is important and contributes greatly to the excitement!

Now it's time to prepare the body. Perhaps you'd like to take a warm shower or bath together? There, you can kiss and touch each other, building intimacy. This can be an exciting way to initiate the erotic massage.

5. The erotic massage techniques

Now it's time for the erotic massage. Warm the massage oil between your hands by rubbing them vigorously together. If your hands are cold, warm them first, then the massage oil. Start with the back. Starting with the back allows the recipient to adjust and feel more secure than if you start with the feet or legs. This allows them to relax and surrender more fully.

Make firm, long strokes over the muscles, using the entire surface of your hand. Increase the pressure from light to firm and ask your partner if they like the pressure. It's important to maintain contact with the body at all times during the massage! Don't just lift both hands away. Maintain contact; this creates trust and safety. To see all the steps in the process, you can download the super practical book Erotic Massage by Kenneth Ray Stubbs Purchase this book. In this book, you'll find more than 100 illustrations to guide you.

6. Take your time before touching your genitals

It's important to take your time during an erotic massage. When your partner feels there's no rush or goal to achieve, they can relax more easily. And... delaying pleasure is very hot! Only after you've massaged the entire body, front and back, can you touch the genitals. You can massage the buttocks, thighs, breasts, and groin—very exciting—to arouse pleasure, but always avoid touching the genitals.

Instead, massage the often-neglected areas of the body, such as the feet and wrists. Also pay attention to the head and ears, as these are important for the flow of pleasure and energy. This will ensure that the whole body participates.

7. Playing with the senses and attributes

Playing and stimulating with accessories, or even removing a sense (blindfold), will add to the pleasure and enjoyment of an erotic massage. After relaxing, you can build excitement. What other possibilities can you imagine? To make the massage even more erotic, you can tie your partner's hands or lightly spank their bottom. Or use a vibrator or a nice dildo for added sensation. Warm an object made of glass, stone, or metal in your hands first; such an object quickly absorbs body heat and feels wonderfully smooth.

8. Sensual yoni or lingam massage

Then you can continue with a sensual yoni or lingam massage. a yoni massage The vulva and vagina are the central focus. It's a special experience for a woman or person with a vagina. The goal of a yoni massage isn't an orgasm, but an experience of pleasure and surrender.

Lingam means penis and in Sanskrit means wand of light. This is how you should view and massage a penis. This Eastern massage technique is aimed at increasing sexual energy. This special massage technique also erotic lingam massage It's not about coming. Agree beforehand whether or not you both want to.

In both cases, give your partner time to experience all the layers of relaxation and pleasure, allowing them to surrender and open up to you. Letting go of control and surrendering your body completely into the hands of the person massaging you is an act of trust. Surrender doesn't come easily to everyone receiving massage. Keep this in mind and reassure the person.

Erotic massage: a gift for both

Giving and receiving massages in a relationship is a sign of respect and appreciation. The most important ingredients are love and attention.

The erotic massage will put you in the mood To share the sensual and relaxing experience together, and that doesn't necessarily have to involve sex. It can actually be very pleasurable when nothing is expected of you and you can simply enjoy being massaged. Then you can give free rein to all your feelings without an "end" or "goal" in sight.

NB : You don't necessarily have to be romantic partners. You can also receive an erotic massage from a professional.

All of the above components contribute to creating a sensual atmosphere where you can pamper and discover each other. Enjoy everything these inspiring tips & tools can do for you and your relationship. And we can't emphasize it enough: giving and receiving freely is a great gift for both! Hence our motto: enjoy & let enjoy such a delightful erotic massage.