Anal sex is hot and anal sex is taboo...

Anal sex is hot, but also taboo. The popularity of porn seems to be responsible for the growing interest in butt play. On the other hand, the taboo surrounding this form of sex also makes it even more exciting and therefore appealing. Want to know more about how to start with anal penetration? Read below to learn how to enjoy anal sex safely and with pleasure!

Anal sex: a source of pleasure and a little scary

Anal sex can be a great source of pleasure for both the receiver and the giver. It's not surprising, then, that many people enjoy—or fantasize about—anal sex. It's striking, however, that men are the most interested. Women tend to be more reserved about this type of sex. Anal penetration comes in many forms: with a penis, a dildo, fingers, or special toys. Licking the anal opening with the tongue, also known as "rimming," and prostate massage also fall under anal sex.

The best way to experiment with butt play is with a partner you know well and trust. Together, you can take your time to rediscover each other. Anal sex should never hurt, so stop if you feel any discomfort or pain. Careful and mindful are the key words for anal sex.

Preparing for anal sex

Always use plenty of lubricant during anal sex. This is important because the anus doesn't produce its own lubricant, unlike the vagina. The risk of anal penetration without sufficient lubricant and lubricant is anus tears. There's also a higher risk of STIs during anal sex and anal sores. Also, always use condoms when you're not having sex with a regular partner. There are special lubricants for anal sex. These are thicker and usually water-based, such as Slide by Nexus. A water-based lubricant can also be used with all types of toys, making this lubricant a good option. But a silicone lubricant is especially good for anal sex. Silicone is super smooth and doesn't absorb into the skin, so this lubricant stays slippery much longer. In addition, a silicone lubricant remains slippery when it comes into contact with water, which is handy if you want to have sex in the bath or shower, for example.

Massage to relax...

Before you start anal penetration, you can start with an extended, relaxing Erotic massage. This involves playfully incorporating the anus into your caresses. When your partner is relaxed, stimulate the secret entrance with one or more fingers, a dildo (anal), a vibrator, or other exciting stimulation. Safe anal toys . Only a relaxed anus will open for penetration.

Of course you can also lick and kiss the asshole (rimming), with or without the use of a Dental dam. There are also latex gloves. Plenty of ways to fully enjoy anal penetration. Click here for safe and hygienic products .

Anal penetration: giving and receiving

For men, performing or receiving anal sex can be an intense and deeply intimate experience. As a passive receiver, they too can experience the beauty, vulnerability, and surrender usually reserved for a vagina. This can also be the very threshold a man struggles to overcome. Many men prefer to fantasize about anal sex. They experience the tight, different entrance as an exciting and arousing alternative to vaginal sex. The pressure they have to exert during entry also makes anal penetration feel extra intense and conscious. It's important for the receiver to feel comfortable and safe; relaxed and in the mood!

The prostate in combination with butt play

Yet anal sex is particularly interesting for him because anal penetration can stimulate the prostate. The prostate is located about 5 cm deep inside the anus, towards the abdomen. The prostate, also known as the P-spot, is the equivalent of the well-known female G-spot. The P-spot is a wonderful place for penis owners. Prostate massage can also lead to a spontaneous orgasm and intense, deeply felt satisfaction. You can read about P-spot massage in the blog post on this topic.

Women have their reservations

Anal sex can also be a very welcome and enjoyable addition to lovemaking for women. The anus has at least as many nerve endings as the clitoris! Moreover, the anus is directly connected to the nerve endings in the vagina.

However, not every woman is immediately charmed by this form of sex. Anal penetration can be painful and the need to open yourself up from behind as well can be too much are experienced. But it can also be a challenge to push your boundaries and have a special experience together. Who knows; you might just love it!

Can you have an anal orgasm from penetration?

For penis owners, that's a definite yes, because anal penetration stimulates the prostate. But for vagina owners, it's also possible. Your anus experiences contractions, just like your vagina. These muscle movements make it possible to have an orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation.

How exactly do butt muscles work?

The outer muscle around the anus responds to touch. You can easily access it because you have control over it. That's why you can tense and relax this muscle. A little deeper inside your anus is the inner sphincter, which doesn't open easily. This muscle responds to commands from your nervous system, via the brain. It relaxes when you need to defecate, for example. But this muscle also responds to your mental well-being; feelings of fear and shame play an important role here, as does horniness. You might be afraid of feces. You don't really need to worry about that: sex is always a bit messy, and besides, there's usually no feces in your rectum. Feces are in the large intestine, which forms a bend towards the rectum, where you don't simply end up during penetration. If the idea puts you off, then, just to be safe, take a refreshing butt douche beforehand with a so-called "bath douche." enema.

Do's & don'ts

• Make sure you have a good ( silicone ) lubricant.
• Make yourself comfortable by massaging your bottom with your fingers – and plenty of lubricant – so you get used to the feeling of relaxing and you start to enjoy it!
• Always be careful with your nails during penetration. To be safe, wear smooth, comfortable latex gloves. (See the M&F website: hygiene.)
• There are also special practice dildos that go from narrow to wider. Be careful that whatever you put in your butt can't slip back in!
• Using rigid, straight shapes is not recommended due to the curved shape of the rectum. While it is possible, adjust your posture accordingly.
• Do not use vaginal devices that you use in your buttocks! This can disrupt the natural flora of the vagina and lead to yeast infections. Use condoms for safe sex!
• Communication is important for all forms of (anal) sex. Discuss your boundaries with your partner. The receiver must be able to trust that their partner will slow down or pull back if penetration becomes painful.

Hygiene

With normal hygiene, anal sex isn't dirty. If you want to be extra prepared for anal contact, you can use an enema. Be aware that douching also flushes away healthy bacteria. Therefore, use the enema sparingly.

After anal sex, you should never insert the same object or body part directly into the vagina, as this disrupts the natural balance of the vagina. Always clean your tools immediately after use. Do this with a good body soap and rinse thoroughly. An antibacterial cleaner for your sex toys is also recommended, especially if you're not the only one using them yourself. Some toys are also suitable for boiling. Toys made of glass or metal are also nice. These are super smooth and non-porous, making them easier to maintain hygienically. Be sure to check out our hygiene products!

Toys & accessories

An interesting challenge for a woman can be to take another anally with a strap-on dildo and experience how to take feels. There's a wide range of strap-on dildos and dildo straps for that. With these accessories, you can play, and anal sex can be a source of discovery and pleasure.
With an anal dildo, you can train your anal muscles to hold and release. The dildo's shape causes the muscles to contract around the narrow part just before the base.

Exciting play with a butt plug

With a butt plug in your butt, you can lie down, sit, or even just walk around. You can leave the butt plug in during sex for added stimulation. During vaginal penetration, it contributes to increased sensitivity because the butt plug narrows the vagina and provides additional stimulation to the vaginal walls. A butt plug can therefore significantly contribute to sensation and pleasure during vaginal penetration.

There are also vibrating plugs and dildos.

Anal balls are great for up-and-down movements. Especially during intercourse or masturbation, this stimulation of the anus provides extra pleasure. The elongated ball or ribbed shape can provide just the right amount of stimulation that takes you dizzyingly "over the edge" and prolongs your orgasm.

Finally

Communication, trust, and lubricant are the keys to pleasurable butt play with a partner. There are many different types and models of toys, some with extra playful elements. It's great to experiment with and let your imagination run wild. Anal sex shouldn't be taboo, but rather a playful sexual activity you can add to your sex life for more pleasure and excitement. From fingering to strap-on dildos, the possibilities are endless when it comes to anal sex.