THE PELVIC FLOOR MUSCLES
At Mail & Female, we receive many questions from women about pelvic floor muscles and Ben-Wa balls. We're pleased that awareness of the importance of the pelvic floor is gradually gaining ground, especially among women!
And what about men...? Does everyone even know that everyone has pelvic floor muscles? For both our health and our sexual arousal, this is a topic we'd like to encourage you to pay serious attention to. Because the pelvic area houses our center of desire and life.
It's a shame that a lot of nonsense is written about Ben-Wa balls . You might think they'll make you cum... Now, that's perfectly possible, but there's a bit of a prelude to that. So, let's summarize some facts so you know what to expect from Ben-Wa balls and related tools.
For more information about Ben-Wa balls, read our article "The Best Ben-Wa Balls" here.
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What about the pelvic floor muscle?
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Love muscles!
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Fitness exercises
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Toolkits
It's important for everyone to keep the muscles in this area in good condition. Pelvic floor muscles weaken as you age, both men and women. After all, it's a muscle, and muscles weaken. Muscle weakening is more common in women because it occurs more frequently during pregnancy and childbirth.
In a woman, this muscle group holds the intestines in place (you've probably heard stories about "prolapses"). A man can check the condition of his muscles by moving his erect penis. He does this with these muscles, just like when he stops urinating.
Very functionally, you could say that our pelvic floor muscles help us hold in our urine and feces. And you want to avoid having to wear panty liners! But beyond these discomforts, the pelvic floor muscles have a lot to do with how we experience our sexuality. That's why we like to call them our "love muscles"...
IMPORTANCE OF GOOD BLOOD CIRCULATION
A more erotic reason to optimally train this area has to do with the fact that this area also houses your sense of sexuality! Good pelvic floor muscle condition ensures good blood flow to this area. This blood flow keeps the vaginal wall elastic. This allows the vaginal wall to retain its lubricity and keeps the love juices flowing (even after menopause). For men , the condition of the pelvic floor allows them to control their ejaculation. Men with erectile dysfunction—provided there is no other medical or psychological cause—can find immediate relief by improving these muscles.
It's no wonder Mail & Female prefers to call the pelvic floor muscles "love muscles." This bundle of muscles encloses your most important energy center: your love and sex centers. This is the life source from which your need for (self)love and (self)sex originates. This is also an area where we may not have sufficient contact and connection, especially for women, because we don't have a view of our genitals like a man does.
IN THE WORST CASE
If the area becomes tense and there's no understanding, let alone love for your pleasure organ. The result is a sore area devoid of vital fluids. This may sound a bit vague and mysterious at first, but if you start practicing the exercises, you'll notice that better contact with your pelvic floor will give your sensuality and sexuality a huge boost; you'll become more sensitive. The exercises aren't complicated, and fortunately, we're quite capable of maintaining or improving these muscles. You do this with Kegel exercises . These exercises are discussed in the adjacent tab.
10 REASONS
TO GET STARTED WITH YOUR LOVE MUSCLES:
1. The good blood flow to the pelvic floor area makes you more sensitive. 2. Your vagina becomes more succulent because the walls remain elastic.
3. Your erection is harder due to improved blood circulation.
4. You can control your orgasm; for example, by delaying it.
5. You become more orgasmic; you come more easily.
6. Your desire for sex originates in your pelvic floor area.
7. Your body reacts when you tense and relax your muscles, it tingles and tickles again, just like a lovestruck teenager.
8. Good communication with your lower body makes you more positive about your body and your feelings of pleasure.
9. It is a wonderful feeling to experience sexual arousal coming from within yourself.
10. You will become a happier person with a good sense of self-respect.
If you want more background information and how-to's, visit our Love Academy
Worrying about a lack of or low sex drive can have many causes. Sometimes the root cause is deeply rooted, and the solution requires years of effort. You can achieve quick success by maintaining your love muscles, training them, and giving them love and attention. For anyone who's inspired and wants to get started right away, here's love muscle fitness with "Kegel exercises":
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Your pelvic floor muscles contract and relax without simultaneously contracting other muscles, such as your leg, buttock or abdominal muscles.
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Contract your pelvic floor muscles as you exhale and relax them as you inhale.
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Contract your muscles 15 to 20 times, holding the tension for a second. Gradually build up to two sets of 50 repetitions. Practice this twice a day.
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Once you're used to the previous exercise, hold the muscle tension for longer. Gradually increase the number of seconds you can hold the tension to more than a minute. Also practice applying pressure to the muscles (straining). You can do this by briefly opening your anus after urinating.
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Do the exercise in different positions (lying down, sitting). You can do it anywhere; no one will see you. Make it a daily habit! It's very important to pay attention to your breathing; breathe deeply to keep the energy flowing!
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You can do these exercises very well with one of the tools – which we discuss in the tab next to this text – because you can feel your muscles better with them.
Besides the regular Ben-Wa balls, there are fantastic practice kits. With such a kit, you can build up your exercises and easily track your progress. For example, holding the heavy cone is a challenge, but it's even more rewarding to see that, after a while of practice (two months), you can manage it. You'll also quickly notice increased vaginal strength during penetration, when you're able to grip a penis or dildo with your muscles.
WHY BEN-WA BALLS
Why would you actually want to use Ben-Wa balls, Geisha balls, or the Tantra egg ? Important reasons include health issues or a desire to improve your sex life. In all cases, Ben-Wa balls are the perfect aids. You'll feel the relaxation in your vagina better if there's something inside you that you clench your muscles around.
JNAJA OR PROSTATE DILDO'S
In principle, the same applies to men as described above. With a prostate dildo, you can specifically target your muscles. The unique Velv'Or cock ring has a beautifully subtle effect. You wear this cock ring during your daily activities. The ring stimulates the perineum and the prostate above it. The ring makes you aware of the importance of your love muscles and your desire to positively train them. Aneros prostate dildos are wonderful products for practice and play!
THE CENTER OF YOUR LOVE LIFE
It's essential for your sexuality to be in good contact with your pelvic floor and to ensure your pelvic floor muscles are in good condition. This starts with awareness: when you insert the balls in the morning, it's a conscious act with a purpose. You're making a conscious decision to pay attention to your vagina. You feel the balls in place and squeeze regularly. Knowing you have balls in automatically has an erotic effect, because after all, you're very positive about 'sex,' and that feels good!
The same story for the penis: surround your penis with the Jnaja and consciously squeeze your muscles to feel it properly.
WHICH SITUATION APPLIES TO YOU
Here are a few situations that may apply to you. Each situation refers to information about products best suited to that situation. Read through the situations, select the description that best suits your needs, and make the best choice for you. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to contact us. We're happy to help!
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My pelvic floor muscles clearly need strengthening and I have little experience exercising with Ben-Wa balls .
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I find it especially exciting to play with them. I'd rather have heavier balls, and I don't need a string to get them out. The original geisha balls might be an interesting option for you.
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I'm looking for something that aligns with tantra techniques and is made from natural materials. Tell me more about the tantra eggs.
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I want to experiment with something other than balls. It has to be something I can truly incorporate into lovemaking in an erotic way.
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I want an egg that I can also use as a vibrator for clitoral stimulation. In this case, we have a great ball with vibration and exercise programs !
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I'm a man; is there anything I can do to exercise my pelvic floor muscles? I've never really thought about it, but I'm curious about the possibilities for men.
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I'd like to delve a little deeper first and would like to know more about what you consider to be the best books .
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Do you have more serious problems, or is your problem simply that you're too tense? Then we recommend seeking help from a pelvic floor specialist. Your GP can refer you.
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NB: It's also possible that your pelvic floor muscles are too tight. That requires a completely different exercise and approach than described here!
- All exercises can be done by everyone, with some adjustments.
