Spanking for beginners: all techniques at a glance

What's the appeal of a good spanking, or spanking? Why can pain be so arousing? How can you optimally enjoy your own and your partner's kinky desires? And above all: what techniques can we use to make the reality of spanking a tangible success?

What is spanking?

Spanking is the erotic beating, usually of the buttocks. The buttocks are ideal for this because they naturally contain more fat and can therefore withstand a beating! They're also close to the genitals, so the impact of the stroke vibrates wonderfully.

Spanking borders on the power and surrender of BDSM. In this sense, the spanker is the dominant, wielding the power and providing pleasure to the submissive. The dominant is attentive to the submissive's desires and every signal. Trust and safety are key here. This allows the submissive to surrender completely to the sensations of pain and pleasure—a wonderful feeling!

Spanking can be done during intercourse. Think of it as a good slap on the buttock during sex. But you can also do it on its own. Is spanking something you'd like to try, perhaps by receiving it or doing it yourself? Read on to find out how… 🙂

How do you start spanking?

Spanking your partner effectively (or being spanked yourself) is an art, and we're going to teach you how in this blog post. In no time, you'll have your partner's bottom smacked pink (or vice versa) in a safe and enjoyable way, so you both can enjoy it to the fullest!

Communication & consent

Before you go wild in all your horny enthusiasm, it's important to communicate your desires with your partner and get their consent. Share that you'd like to spank or be spanked, and see if your partner is open to it. You can also do this in an exciting way, for example, by saying, "The thought of spanking you while you're inside me makes me really horny. Is that something you'd enjoy?" Or simply, "I want to give you a slap on the bum, would you like that?" Agree on a safe word if necessary. If one of you says it, you know you have to stop. This way, you can experiment and then build up to a full-blown over-the-knee spanking!

Spanking with props

When you're going to spank, you don't have to just use your hands. There are also all kinds of fun spanking props that you can use, such as paddles and whips.

A paddle's surface is smooth and stable, giving you excellent control over your stroke. Some paddles have give, making them less firm. Others are harder, creating a more intense sensation on the buttocks. Leather feels wonderful against the skin.

With a suede whip or a flogger Using several cords, you can gently stroke the buttocks and also deliver firm slaps with a good flick of the wrist. Whips are more difficult to handle than paddles, so practice first! Threatening and teasing with a whip across the body is also a fantastic way to create pleasure and desire during your lovemaking.

The best spanking tips

When spanking, it's important to sensitize the skin to sensations. This is achieved through a slow and sensual buildup. Read our spanking tips below!

1. Lay your partner over your knee, or bend them over a table or counter. Ask your partner to lie down comfortably, and use a pillow if necessary. This not only provides easy access to their bottom, but it also creates a sense of submission and surrender for the person being spanked.
2. Start by gently stroking and caressing the buttocks with a flat hand. This will build tension and help your partner relax...
3. Once the person is used to your touch, spank their buttock with the flat of your hand. Make sure you hit the fleshiest part of the buttock. From the bottom of the buttock upward is the best spot. Be careful not to spank directly on the bone, as this can be painful. Also, avoid the lower back and don't always hit the same spot.
4. Alternate with a caress. Caress the spot you just touched with the flat of your hand.
5. Now make a cup with your hand and strike again. This gives a different feeling and sound!
6. Change the pace; sometimes you'll give two gentle strokes, then a gentle caress, and then a harder spank. This is also the perfect time to experiment with different props.
7. Pay attention to other parts of your body, too, caressing your thighs or back, and adding dynamism to your touch. Increased blood flow to your buttocks has made them extra sensitive. Kiss, caress, lick, and alternate with a good slap! Pay close attention to your partner and occasionally ask if they're enjoying it. You can always ask, "Do you want it harder or softer?"
8. Once the session is over, caress your buttocks. If desired, massage them with massage oil or a cooling gel.

Spanking: pain & pleasure

Have you gotten a taste for it and want to experiment with power and surrender beyond spanking? Then read our blog about it. BDSM games For more spicy tips. And for now: happy spanking!