Unknown makes unloved

Listen… Your vagina is speaking.

There's nothing and no one who knows you better. She tells the truth! She tells you how you feel and she gives you advice—wise advice, because it's honest advice. She doesn't mince her words. So listen!

Ah, you mean "gut feelings"? Exactly! In your gut, where your feelings reside; your intuition and your emotions. Your emotions play a vital role in what you think and what you do. That's why it's important to have a good relationship with that gut so you can make the right decisions. The gut that knows everything and helps you let go, say yes or no, so you can live more confidently, freely, and happily.

But what do we really know about our vagina?
Start with the basics and call a spade a spade. Everything we don't know about the female sex begins with the name, so to be clear: the vulva is what you see and feel outside your body: the clitoris bud and your inner and outer labia, your mane and mound.
Your vagina begins after the vaginal opening, which you can see when you spread your lips.

30 years of Mail & Female
The 30 unconventional years of Mail & Female have been a journey of discovery into womanhood, sex, and pleasure. Simultaneously, it has been a journey of emancipation, a fight for freedom of choice, the breaking of taboos, and controversy. What have we learned about the vagina in the past 30 years? How does every woman define her sexuality? How many women have we spoken to about that many vaginas!? Half a million or so?
Granted that every woman and every vagina is different, there are some striking similarities. A few years ago, we spoke to many women who didn't know that the clitoris is the organ of our arousal and orgasm. In recent years, it's become increasingly apparent that women want vibrators for the external area—the clitoris—because they "have no feeling in their vagina."
An important shift that we owe on the one hand to the familiarity of the clitoris and on the other hand to the mysteries and unfamiliarity with our vagina.

Clitoris in 3D

What we know
For about 10 years now, scientists have been publishing about the true shape and size of our clitoris, which extends into the vagina. At Mail & Female, we've known this for a while; before that, we had our experiences with the duo vibrator Tarzan?. Some scientists claim we have no sensation in our vagina, calling it merely a numb birth canal. The experiences at Mail & Female differ considerably on this point as well. We experience our vagina as a source of sensation and pleasure. Moreover, it's where our "gut feeling," our intuition, resides.

We've amassed so much knowledge over the past 30 years: about the clitoris, the G-spot, vaginal orgasms, and/or uterine orgasms. We've learned so much from our sister sex goddesses about Tantra, Taoism, breathing, pelvic floor muscles, and increasingly more about sex, love, and pleasure. At Mail & Female, we've explored it all over the years. Women learn from women, and we share our knowledge and experiences. Not much research has been conducted on female sexuality; it's complex, and the findings are usually politically biased; for example, "for or against the G-spot." We naturally want to encourage science to conduct more, and especially more holistic, research.

What we experience
We've found that awareness of sensation in our vagina is essential for becoming a complete human being. That sounds as dramatic as it is. Our entire being is a chain. Your identity consists of head, heart, and vagina; this forms the coherence of your personality. It is precisely the feeling, your intuition in your vagina that is so crucial in this. If you remove that link, because you supposedly have no feeling there, you deny, in our experience, your life energy; you disintegrate. This is also what women recognize when we talk to them about it. So, away with this notion and let's delve into the vagina!

What to do
You have her as long as you're in the world, you carry her with you wherever you go, and she's not a blank slate. Your vagina shares your life experience.
But do you know her and have you looked at her properly?
Ahem, few women are immediately enchanted by what they see. That's a shame, and why? What's unknown breeds contempt. So:

Get to know her inside and out!

Vagina Vibes

Get a really nice, comfortable (hand) mirror. One that makes you happy to hold it. Look at your vulva and greet it. Do this every day, greeting it until you know every crease and hair. This is your vulva! Love it!
Open your lips and enter the Mystery: your Vagina. This is Fantasy Island, where everything you are is. Believe me, there's every reason to penetrate its mystery and meet yourself there.
Difficult? It takes some getting used to. I know people who can't even look at themselves in the mirror. Of course, we don't know what we're afraid of; we just are! We're afraid until we overcome it. It never happens automatically; you have to take action. Getting to know yourself in the mirror, bit by bit, and gradually learning to love her...
It starts with looking, and once you've accepted her and recognized her beauty, you'll slowly but surely learn to listen to her, and a serious conversation with your vagina will become more than natural... She'll become your best friend!