To come, or: the female orgasm

You hear a lot about the female orgasm these days and the existence of an orgasm gap between men and women. Research shows that this orgasm gap is particularly prevalent in cis-heterosexual couples. Lesbian couples don't experience a shortage of orgasms. This means that it's not a given that a woman or someone with a vagina will also climax during penis-in-vagina sex. Of course, the question also arises as to whether an orgasm is always so important for everyone. Let's not fixate on the orgasm; it's primarily about whether you're having satisfying sex.

But why is it so difficult for many women to achieve an orgasm from sex? Now that more research has been conducted recently and knowledge has been gained about female anatomy and sexuality, we also have more facts available. We can confidently say that every woman and person with a vagina can achieve orgasm, so let's look at how the female orgasm works!

The female orgasm: facts and myths

The female orgasm (or in the plural: orgasms); that's what we're ultimately all working towards. At least, let's say it can be the culmination of our efforts. But the journey to get there is just as rewarding...

However, besides concerns about the orgasm gap, there are many myths and fables about the female orgasm. For example, the G-spot supposedly doesn't exist and an orgasm can only be achieved through external clit stimulation. What's true or false? What is true is that a woman climaxes through stimulation of the clit and vulva; this can be through vibration, or even through the stimulation of in-and-out movements in the vagina. These movements stimulate blood flow and fill the clitoris with blood, causing it to become erect. Combined with the combination of movement, tension, and relaxation, this can lead to orgasm.

But before we go any further, we want to convey to you that for a woman, the path to orgasm is perhaps the most important thing of all. Focusing completely on your pleasure and enjoying the excitement you can let yourself be carried away is so powerful! So be present in the moment.

Marvel at the sensitivity of your vulva and vagina and consider the orgasm, when it comes, as an extra, satisfying gift.

Every orgasm is different

It's also important to realize that every orgasm is different for every person and every time; sometimes it's a gentle, gentle flow; a bit normal, or even ecstatic. It's that peak that makes you lose control and pushes you beyond yourself for a moment—or a long time. We'll explain how the female orgasm works.

Here we have divided the female orgasm into four essentials:

1. Clitoris: the facts
2. The brain: our most important sex organ
3. G-spot: an orgasmic zone
4. PC muscles : your love muscles

How a Woman Orgasms: Clitoral Facts

For most women, clitoral stimulation is the primary way to achieve orgasm. All female orgasms are ultimately believed to stem from clitoral stimulation. For some, that might be a breath of fresh air, while for others, a powerful vibration is just enough. But what is a clitoris?

We've recently learned that the clitoris is a much larger organ than the "button" on the outside. This sensitive external button has "legs" that extend deep into the vagina. Your clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg, because your clitoris is a single organ, with the largest part inside and a small part outside your body. Also read the blog about the clitoris in 3D.

In this drawing, you can see how the legs extend like a fork from the outer clit. The blue part is the large sensory organ with thousands of nerve endings. The thick gray part is the erectile tissue that fills with blood when aroused. In that respect, the clit can be compared to a penis.

So basically the female reproductive organ works exactly like a penis, but mainly internally with the 'glans' as Teaser: the outer clit. But the physical process: having an erection is also essential for a woman who wants to climax!

The female orgasm: clit and vaginal

We hear many different stories about becoming aroused and reaching orgasm. For example, women often tell us that they can only achieve orgasm through stimulation of the external clitoris and that they experience no sensation in their vagina. Other women, on the other hand, tell us that they experience vaginal penetration with, for example, a dildo desire, because then they experience their orgasms more fully and intensely.

If you've always heard that women orgasm from sex/vaginal penetration, frustration is understandable when you have a completely different experience. About 8 out of 10 women don't orgasm from penetration... While you can get turned on in many different ways, you should know that it's just as important for a clitoris/vagina as it is for a penis to have an erect clitoris: fully engorged and stimulated. This is usually the cause of the "orgasm gap"; a clitoris isn't sufficiently aroused to experience pleasure from penetration. So, it's all about how and what arouses you to achieve orgasm.

When you're not sufficiently aroused, your vagina isn't ready for penetration. This can also cause pain and frustration, and you can end up in a negative spiral of "no desire for sex." If you're in the mood, but your vagina doesn't feel smooth enough, there's always that A delicious lubricant . Because wet is different from slippery!

Stimulate the outer clit

So this is why stimulating the outer clit with a vibrator for example, -like the fantastic Womanizer Creates the excitement that fills the erectile tissue with blood, making the vagina juicy. When aroused, the erectile tissue can contain a teacup's worth of blood. This arousal of the clitoris creates the pleasurable vaginal sensation during penetration with a penis, dildo, or duo vibrator, such as the Laid V.1.
When you become increasingly aroused by stimulating your clit, it will result in an orgasm. You feel climax through the tension and contractions in your vagina; these are the precursors to the explosion that is the orgasm. By playing with this feeling of tension and relaxation for longer, you can take your orgasm from a "peak orgasm" to a "full-body orgasm."

This tension-relaxation play works by focusing on your breathing. So, when you don't just focus on reaching orgasm through stimulation of the external clitoris, you can achieve relaxation through breathing. In this awareness of your body and mind, you enter the orgasmic ecstatic state, which spreads throughout your entire body. are spread. Want to know more about how this part of the female orgasm works? Read more about it in the article about vagina vibes .

The brain is our most important sexual organ

A female orgasm isn't so much complex as it is multifaceted. However, you should know that your brain is ultimately your most important sexual organ. The largest sexual organ is between your ears, not between your legs.

Two examples that show that your brain is your engine, brake and accelerator:

1. You can have an orgasm without physical contact, for example through horny thoughts, porn, fantasies or during your sleep in your dream.
2. There are situations in which your body reacts with a wet vagina, but you don't want sex at all. This can happen, for example, in cases of sexual assault. You might hear, "Yes, but she was wet..." Vaginal wetting is a normal physical reflex that has nothing to do with desire or desire.

The G-spot and the PC muscle are important orgasm spots

While we're focusing here on the role of the clitoris, the G-spot and the PC muscle are crucial for female orgasms. A G-spot orgasm is truly different, and the PC muscle is your "love muscle," essential for erotic pleasure.

G-Spot vs. clitoral orgasm 

Sometimes women don't realize they've had a G-spot orgasm. The technique of fingering and the sensation of clitoral stimulation are very different from G-spot stimulation. While the clit experiences an electric-like, rapidly building, somewhat superficial tension, the G-spot feels more muted. Arousal develops more slowly and is directed more outward. This explains the feeling of "needing to pee" when this area of ​​the G-zone is triggered. However, if you allow yourself to feel that feeling, you can experience a squirting orgasm. It feels wonderful, but as a woman, you might wonder, "Did I just have an orgasm?"… 😊. Learn all about the G-spot in this blog!

Why the PC muscle is so essential for orgasm in women and men

You PC muscles The love muscles in the pelvic area provide the blood flow necessary for orgasm. They ensure vaginal lubrication and penile erection. To achieve and control orgasm, you must therefore ensure good physical condition of the PC muscle. news…: an orgasm gives your PC muscle a boost and is therefore a perfect workout for a healthy PC muscle 😊 .

Every woman can come

Enjoying your body is important for loving yourself. Self-love is the foundation of love… Every woman and person with a vagina can reach orgasm, and every human being has the right to sexual pleasure. Our bodies were designed for it! Let more knowledge about the female orgasm and vaginal anatomy be a great start.