Playing a BDSM game

Who takes the initiative and who then pulls the strings? Do you dare to play the game and surrender completely to each other? It's exciting and interesting to see how the game unfolds...!

You'll find it reveals so much about yourself. You can experience a completely different side of yourself. Confrontational and challenging... You'd love to play for hours and hours, but your first attempt might only last 10 to 15 minutes. The excitement of this new and exciting game can be overwhelming.
But the best way to play is to stick to your role as long as possible. Once the dominant/submissive play transitions into good, hot sex, surrender and go with the flow.

Practice makes perfect!

BDSM play also takes a lot of energy and can transform you to a higher, spiritual level. It's beautiful, but sometimes quite frightening! So take your time and go slow. Don't give up too quickly and keep experimenting, because just like everything else, good BDSM play is all about practice!

Getting started with BDSM play can be tricky: where do you begin, what do you need, and what are the possibilities? To help you get started, here are some lists, tips, and tricks. This also clearly shows that BDSM play is very varied, usually progressing from hard to soft; from strict to gentle, and so on. Variety and surprise create the highlights that are so characteristic of these Power & Submission games.
Have fun playing…

The setting:

Kitchen or dining room
Supplies: start your juicy preparation here…
A straight chair and a sturdy table
Toys: handcuffs, bondage rope (3 – 10 meters), blindfold, nipple clamps or clothespins
Soft and hard: feathers, whip, satin, velvet
Cold and hard: ice, metal, or glass from the freezer (don't leave glass in the freezer for too long, as it may break!)
Kitchen utensils: ladle, spatula, large serving spoon
Extra: sexy lingerie, mask, dildo, vibrator etc.

The Game

Agree on boundaries beforehand. For example, no penetration or anal sex, and agree on a safe word. Once this is agreed upon, the game can begin...

• Tie the innocent man's hands and feet to a chair next to the table.
• Unfasten the innocent person's clothing (buttons, zippers, etc.), but don't undress them. Being exposed in this way often makes people feel more vulnerable than when they are actually naked. Use the feathers and/or whip to tickle and (gently) hit the innocent person's body.
• Untie the hands, but leave the feet tied. Then have the innocent person bend over the table, with their feet still attached to the chair. This feels a little awkward, but it's very effective in helping the innocent person grow into their role.
• Use a spatula, ladle, whip, hand, etc., to rub or slap the buttocks and backs of the legs. Note: Be careful with the backs of the knees and ankles! Watch this video To learn which places you can spank. This position is also good for using vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, or (oral) sex.
• Use the ice to harden your nipples and/or cool your neck, arms, and legs. Insert the ice into your vagina or anus. This may feel intense, and the ice will cause a burning sensation as it melts. But don't worry, it's harmless!
• Alternate very sweet and soft with harder to create a dynamic play.
• If the innocent person doesn't use the safeword, the game ends when the dominator decides. As the dominator, you can also ask, "Do you want more?" and then hold off for a moment, delaying the pleasure to further submissively ease the innocent person into the submissive role.

All Senses!

This game engages all the senses. Set the mood: candles, a touch of lust, and music. Sweet scents of fruit (strawberry) and chocolate are also great for rewarding the submissive for good behavior (or simply remembering it:). The scent of leather and rubber can also add to the excitement. Use a blindfold or mirrors to enhance the game's effect.

Finally

Don't forget to hold and cuddle each other after the game. You've both shared an emotional experience that needs time to unwind.

Have fun!

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